I read some amazing blog posts this month and these are the ones that I’m still thinking about. Rori is looking for the best sex blogger post of the year and it is going to be impossible to narrow it down to three.
Did I miss anything? Send me a link to the posts I missed — self-promotion encouraged.
The Dirty Normal
Emily has a fantastic series on how men can compliment women. As that I find compliments fascinating, 1 I think you should check out the entire series:
- 3 features of the best compliments a man can give a woman.
Two from Vagina Antics this month. First, Nikki Blue talks about sex and obligation and how to find a balance. It’s important stuff and she handles it beautifully.
“You didn’t have to fuck me,” I said.
“But I felt like I did.”
And there it was. Regardless of how exhausted or how ill he was, he felt pressured to fuck me to make up for the time we’d been apart; to keep me happy.
For the first time in our relationship, I felt like an obligation– a sex one.
Heather Cole somehow manages to describe her last night with her sir in a way that’s both scintillating and vulnerable.
My cheeks turned scarlet, but I was grinning too. His pleasure and satisfaction with the situation were almost palpable, and I felt an overwhelming sense of pride. I did that for him. On our last night together, I had given him a memory unique to any other experience we had in our collective sexual pasts. I was his girl, and I didn’t know of a better way to show it.
Harris O’Malley dissects toxic masculinity and how it hurts men, women, and everyone.
See, one of the unspoken tenets of hypermasculinity is that masculinity is an external creation – and that means it’s something that ultimately taken from you. Not just lost, mind you, actively taken.
Not Just Bitchy
Stabbity talks about service and makes me realize that while I love providing service to my partner, I am not a service sub.
I understand that it can be hard to let go of the vision of your ideal relationship, but come on guys. Either you give a shit about the actual living breathing human being you’re in a relationship with or you don’t. If you care more about the fantasy than the person, don’t go acting all surprised when she doesn’t seem to care that much about what you want either.
Cava Supernova is branching out into BDSM and it is ridiculously hot to read about. Make sure you don’t miss part two.
There, sprawled out like a giant starfish and dead to the world, lay six foot three of slumbering 22-year-old.
All arms and legs and tufty bed-hair, he was lying on his back, wearing strangely familiar underwear.
Black lace knickers with little pink frills.
His morning hard-on had sprung bloke-ishly out of one of the lace-trimmed leg holes.
Girl On the Net
Girl On the Net tackles the fucked up system of using strippers as corporate incentives. Read the comments.
I hope you’ll cry ‘thank Christ for that, I don’t have to live up to this weird cut-out stereotype of masculinity any more.’ I hope you’ll realise that bringing women into an industry and kicking obligatory sex shows out of it is a net win for all of us. And I hope that in fifty years time you look back not on the ‘good old days’ of Pete from Head Office treating you to a lapdance, but the even better days of not feeling forced into some weird misogynist ritual just to prove your worth in the workplace.
The end of a relationship is awful so I really appreciate what Dumb Domme is sharing with us.
The last ring stays on our collar.
If our paths cross again, I want to put our rings back on our collar and put the collar back on the boy. I want him to be my boy again — not forever, but maybe for a little while.
It’s not a promise, it’s not wishful thinking, and it’s not false hope. It’s possibility.
It’s all I’ve got at the moment, and that’s what I’m holding onto.